Heirs together of the grace of life;

that your prayers be not hindered. (I Pet. 3:7)

As I have meditated on this verse the Lord has shown me some areas in my life that need attention. Let me share them with you. Perhaps you can benefit by my struggles, and hopefully you will not make the same mistakes.

Please read 1 Peter 3:1-9 to get the context of the verse. Now, allow me to quote from the Amplified Bible.

“In like manner, you married women be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them and adapt yourselves to them] so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God] they may be won over, not by discussion, but by the godly lives of their wives; When they observe the pure, modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband]. You are to feel all that reverence includes; to respect, defer to, revere, honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and in the human sense to adore him, that is to praise, be devoted, to deeply love and enjoy your husband. Let not yours be the external adorning. . . But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceable spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up but] is very precious in the sight of God. For it was thus that the pious women of old who trusted in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to their husbands as secondary to and dependent upon them]. It was thus that Sara obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship by] calling him lord [master, leader, authority]. And now you are her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you]. . . ye are joint heirs of the grace [God’s unmerited favor] of life in order that your prayers be not hindered and cut off [otherwise you cannot pray effectively]. Finally all of you should be of one and the same mind [united in spirit] sympathizing [with one another] loving [each other] as brethren [of one household] compassionate and courteous [tenderhearted and humble]. Never return evil for evil or insult for insult [scolding, tongue lashing or berating] but on the contrary, blessing [praying for their welfare, happiness and protection and truly loving them]. For know, that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing from God—that you may obtain a blessing as heirs [bringing welfare and happiness and protection].”

That is a real commission! If you meditate on these verses with an open heart and seek to find how you are fitting into God’s plan for you, you may be surprised. I have always believed this teaching and wanted to live by it. However, it seems that I continue to see new areas and dimensions of this principle that I need to give to God so that I can be fully under His blessing. Perhaps it is the time of life in which I find myself. I am daily confronted with the reality of “who” I am, as I try to impart these truths to my growing, maturing daughters. It is one thing to teach with your mouth how to be a godly woman, and quite another to live it out daily. I am keenly aware that my daughters catch more from my example than they will ever glean from what I say. The challenge is here. Live it! Live it!

We had been facing some challenges and struggles in our family. There were things that needed to be changed, and attitudes that needed attention. I was struggling, crying out to God, and feeling like the changes were not really taking place. Why? I was seeking the Lord earnestly for answers, when the verse “that your prayers be not hindered” came to my mind. As I looked them up and studied them I was deeply touched, rebuked and challenged.

Let’s take a look at a few areas that spoke loudly to me.

“.....the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceable spirit”

Amid the hurry and scurry and the hustle and bustle of life’s many needs, responsibilities and pressures, I tend to lose that gentle and peaceable spirit. Some days I hurry around and get work done but forget to take the time to enjoy my children and husband and “smell the roses.” Sometimes I get irritable and pushy and do not minister that peaceable spirit to my family. When I lose that gentle, peaceable touch, everyone around me mirrors my failure. My husband needs a wife that has a Christ-like spirit. My family needs it! I need it! Perhaps, hmm...I may well be part of the answer to my own prayers. I meditated on the next phrase.

“... Which is not anxious or wrought up, but is very precious in the sight of God”

I have been distressed, discouraged and anxious about the things that I see that need help. In fact, I have been so discouraged that I was not sure that I could do what was set before me. How can one person do all the mommy-managing details, all the school, all the wifely responsibilities, not to mention hospitality and ministering to the needs of others whom God brings into my path? I was extremely concerned that in the middle of all of this I would miss important things that would have a serious effect on the rearing of a godly family. I felt like a failure. And the more I thought about the whole situation, the worse I felt. There seemed to be no solution at hand for me. It was in the middle of this muddle that this verse ministered to me. My anxious heart was a breach of faith. Once again, I was not trusting. I repented of my fear and lack of faith, and the load vanished. It may sound simplistic to you. Nothing else changed. I still had all my responsibilities, but I was at rest. I had chosen, once again, to have that spirit which is, “in the sight of God of great price.” Why?

“... it was thus that Sara obeyed Abraham,” (following his guidance and acknowledging his headship) “whose daughters ye are if you do right and let nothing terrify you ...”

A true daughter of Sara rests in her husband’s decisions. She follows his plans and desires even when she has no idea how everything will turn out. Yes, but.... Do you know what Abraham did to Sara? He gave her away to the harem of the heathen king. I am sure that she did not think that everything was all right, but she rested in faith that God would work everything out, and He did. We tend to think that our circumstances are extreme, don’t we? They may well be, but let us give them to God and He will work them out for His glory and our good.

“...that your prayers be not hindered”

What a lot of work needed to be done in my life so that my prayers would not be hindered! I was the needy one first! How often we see the mote in our husband’s and children’s eyes and completely forget about the beam in our own.

“Finally be united in spirit, sympathizing, compassionate and courteous...”

As God dealt with me about my own attitudes and I repented, I was able to discuss my struggles with my husband, without a critical spirit. We were able to pray and talk together about my problems and discouragement. This openness brought about a healing in my spirit. My husband is better able to minister to me because he understands my needs and truly cares. I am more understanding of him because God is dealing with my own critical spirit. We are heirs together of the grace of life. Finally, in blessing my husband and children, I inherit a blessing! God has promised it.

This change in attitude answered some of my own prayers. My children were more happy and contented, my husband ministered to me and I was not living in the “Castle of Defeat!” I still am not perfect but I am seeking to rise every morning and put my hand in God’s big one and let Him deal with that “giant”.